Embarrassed by Bold Move

Cherie Bennett
Thu, 01 Nov 2012 00:00:00 -0700
Lifestyle

Hey, Cherie!

I'm a 13-year-old girl. I know this may sound vain, but I know I am pretty. I have been getting attention for a long time, and I am always called "the pretty one."

Well, now that I am developing, guys think I am like 17! I love it because I think my best friend's older sister's boyfriend is so fine! He is 16, and I just had to try to talk to him one night at a party. He always says hi to me. He sometimes touches my arm or says I look nice or something. I thought he liked me.
Updated: Wed Oct 31, 2012

Hey, Cherie!

I'm a 13-year-old girl. I know this may sound vain, but I know I am pretty. I have been getting attention for a long time, and I am always called "the pretty one."

Well, now that I am developing, guys think I am like 17! I love it because I think my best friend's older sister's boyfriend is so fine! He is 16, and I just had to try to talk to him one night at a party. He always says hi to me. He sometimes touches my arm or says I look nice or something. I thought he liked me.

Well, he made me feel like an idiot! I don't know what made me do it, but I tried to kiss him. He just pushed me away like I was nothing. I wanted to sink into the floor! I don't think anyone saw, at least I was careful to wait till he was completely alone. I can't believe this happened, and I am way too embarrassed to tell anyone! And, of course, I completely avoid my best friend's house now 'cause I am afraid I would turn bright red if I see him. Cherie! What should I do? —Beyond Embarrassed

Hey, Beyond!

Oh, man! I know just how you feel! It sucks to put yourself out there and get rejected. Every one of us has had the experience of things not working out the way we want them to. It's the embarrassment part that is really tough to get over, isn't it? Feeling like there is nothing that can make you forget that moment when things went the wrong way. But you know what? Things went the way they went. There is nothing you can do to change it. I think you have to decide how to react to it.

This something that you can learn from and process as an unfortunate turn of events, but also realize how bold and confident you are. Perhaps this was the wrong target, and the next one will return you feelings. Maybe you should lead with your wonderful confident conversation first, and then see what happens.

Hey, Cherie!

I'm a full grown 16 year old, and I like to drink coffee in the morning. My mom says it isn't good for me even though she drinks coffee everyday. Everybody I know hangs out and drinks coffee! It's like the national pastime! —No Caff

Hey, No Caff!

I love coffee in the morning, too, truth be told. If you had to drink soda everyday then I would be worried. Health-wise, moderate coffee drinking hasn't been found harmful either for someone your "full-grown age."

I say, a cup a day, with whipped cream, please!